How Depression, Anxiety and Addiction Go Together and Why it Matters
The most staggering statistic that I’ve read regarding mental health goes like this: more than 50% of people in America will experience a mental illness at some point in their lives. This data comes from a study led by Harvard Medical School and the National Institute of Mental Health (NIMH).
Take a moment to let that sink in. Then ask yourself, how much do we really know about these conditions that impact most of us at some point in our lives? Mental health issues are not “side issues.” On the contrary, they affect millions of Americans every single day.
National Depression Screening Day takes place on October 5th this year, and World Mental Health Day follows on October 10th. Now is the perfect time to focus in on depression and anxiety, two interrelated mental and emotional health conditions that often precipitate addiction.
Depression and Anxiety By the Numbers
According to a 2017 study published in the journal Psychiatric Services, more than 8.3 million American adults have depression and anxiety. Plus, the 2016 Surgeon General’s report on addiction notes that over 27 million people were abusing drugs and over 66 million were abusing alcohol in 2015.
Depression, anxiety, and addiction are on the rise, and they’re all interconnected. But before we talk about why depression and anxiety contribute to drug addiction, let’s define these terms.
Defining Depression and Anxiety
Traditional textbook definitions of depression and anxiety describe symptoms, not causes.
If you Google “depression,” you’ll get this: “A mental health disorder characterized by persistently depressed mood.” If you search for “anxiety,” you’ll find this: “A mental health disorder characterized by feelings of worry, anxiety, or fear.” These definitions are accurate, but they’re not exactly illuminating. They don’t reveal the root causes.
We like to define depression as “anger turned inward.” This definition is just three words long, but it gets straight to the heart of the matter. Depression is anger you haven’t allowed yourself to feel or express. While depression manifests as sadness or numb apathy, it starts off as anger.
Likewise, we define anxiety as “emotional energy bouncing back and forth, trapped between internal walls.” Anxiety is the sensation you get when you refuse to feel your “off-limits” emotions, such as hurt and anger.
We teach a framework that clarifies the relationship between depression, anxiety, and addiction. It’s called the “Anger-Hurt-Loving” model, and it points the way forward to healing.
Depression, Anxiety, and Addiction
The Anger-Hurt-Loving model peels back the curtain and allows us a glimpse of what’s usually driving addictive behaviors: untreated mental and emotional health issues. The model is key to understanding anger and addiction as well.
Here’s what it looks like:
Here’s an explanation of how it works:
- Behind every feeling of anger, there is an underlying hurt. We get angry when something we can’t tolerate is present, or something that we need is absent. Either way, the reason we’re angry is because a part of us is hurting.
- However, many of us were socialized not to feel or express our anger, so we push it down and inward. The first diagonal line in the model represents how we cut ourselves off from the feeling of anger. As you now know, anger turned inward becomes depression.
- Now we’ve refused to feel our anger, chances are we don’t want to feel our hurts, either. (Who wants to feel hurt? It hurts!) So we cut ourselves off from that uncomfortable felt experience as well, hence the second diagonal line on the model.
- Since we’re not feeling our hurt or our anger, our emotional energy – that is, the up-and-down arrows in the model – is bouncing back and forth between our internal walls.
And what do we call emotional energy bouncing back and forth? That’s right, anxiety.
Similarly, we define panic as the “acceleration of anxiety.” If anxiety is an emotional jog, then panic is a sprint.
How Addiction Plays In
So now we’re depressed, anxious, and at the point of panic. We feel terrible, and we’re desperate to feel good. And sometimes the bar isn’t even that high; we’re just desperate for a break from feeling quite so bad! We want to avoid our feelings of stress, anxiety, and panic, so we turn to substances. We use because we feel bad, not because we are bad.
Fortunately, there is another option. As you see in the model, when you allow yourself to feel your feelings instead of stuffing them, you move toward healing.
The best way to sum up the core message of the Anger-Hurt-Loving Model is this: When you apply love to the parts of yourself that hurt, you heal.
You may be thinking, Wait a minute, what about my medications? Don’t they help me to heal too?
The Role of Medications in Healing
While self-medication with illegal substances is fraught with danger, taking legally prescribed medications such as SSRIs for depression and anxiety can do a world of good. Prescription medications can improve and stabilize people with mood disorders … up to a point.
(Important note of clarification: we’re not speaking about antipsychotic medications here, as those are a different class of medication with different protocols.)
In the short-term, medication for depression may well be the perfect fit. But for the long term, it’s important to address the root causes, not just alleviate symptoms.
Of course we want to help people feel better. Of course we want to provide crisis care. But we also want to give people the tools they need to recover from depression and anxiety.
We typically suggest that people maintain their current medications and dosages as they begin addressing the underlying core issues. Once they’ve had some time to work with a therapist, they can discern if a lower dose is warranted. We often find that chronic mental health issues diminish in intensity – or even disappear altogether! – as people learn to apply love to the parts of themselves that hurt.
How to Treat Depression and Anxiety for Recovery
What’s really behind your mood swings, your depression, your anxiety? It’s time to find out. It’s time to treat your mental health conditions, rather than simply medicating them and hoping they’ll go away.
As you now know, lasting recovery from substance abuse means addressing and healing the underlying core issues that caused the depression and anxiety in the first place. So give yourself the tools and support you need to work with the anger and hurt you’ve held at bay. Maybe that means outpatient therapy. Maybe it means choosing inpatient treatment for depression. Everyone is different, but no one should have to go it alone.
If you’re afraid to try and afraid to feel, don’t be. In offering yourself this compassion and care, you’ll find that you are much stronger than you know.
As author, speaker, and recovering everything Anne Lamott wrote:
“Hope begins in the dark, the stubborn hope that if you just show up and try to do the right thing, the dawn will come. You wait and watch and work: you don’t give up.”
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